how do people still not get that the constant anxiety & fear of being perceived as gay is homophobic? that constantly reassuring everyone that you are not gay is homophobic? that distancing yourself from gay people (rhetorically, socially, culturally) is homophobic??? jesus.
Ah, yes, yes it is. But I think at that point it really is PHOBIA, which means- they fear something. They fear that someone will think they gay or they somehow fear gay or not-straight people. Which, I think, is not such a bad think, as long as they’re not saying gay is worse. Many people fear different. So, maybe, just maybe, try to forgive this way of homophobia? I mean- I would feel sad if someone knowing my sexual preference would step back, but I wouldn’t be angry, as long as I could see, it was just fear? Everybody is scared of something/someone, right?
wait are you serious? do you actually think homophobia has anything to do with fear? oh my fucking god are you serious???
as a gay woman– hold the fuck up. no. fuck no.
look up the definition of homophobia. it’s not ‘fear of gay people’. it’s fucking 'dislike of or prejudice against homosexual people’. it’s not a fucking fear. if you ask people what they’re afraid of, you’re gonna get 'i’m afraid of heights’ or 'i’m afraid of closed spaces’, you’re never gonna get 'i’m afraid of gay people’ because that’s not how homophobia works. it’s not 'omg gay people are scary’.
you know what is something scary though? gay panic defense. look it up. it basically means you’re allowed to kill someone if you think they’re gay. you know what else is scary? knowing that in some places you could lose your job or your life for loving someone who just happens to be the same gender as you. you know what’s scary? having to live closeted because i’m afraid of getting thrown out by my parents if i tell them i like women.
put this in other terms. replace every single 'gay’ from the original post with 'black’. oh what do you know, it ended up being a sentence about racism, didn’t it? what, are you gonna say it’s just people being afraid of black people? that it’s forgivable?
i’m a fucking person. i’m not a murderer or a rapist or a child abuser. i’m 5'4" and i’m not by any means muscular. i’m not scary. my preferring women is not scary.
try to forgive this way of homophobia?? try to forgive this way of homophobia???? are you fucking for real?????? i’m not even going to begin expressing how disgusting that sentence is. no, fucking no, fucking NO, do not forgive homophobia of any kind ever. because if you say you can forgive one kind of homophobia then you’re saying you can forgive all of them.
this is fucking disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself for even suggesting that any kind of homophobia is forgivable.
